A SHOT AT GOAL

 A SHOT AT GOAL

                         

Life, I want to be quoted to have said that is for two set of people. The successful and the unsuccessful. That I would be successful is not a thing of the mouth but a conviction comes to the mind and put into reality.  I have seen so many people struggle in life to succeed. They do everything possible to be successful. To them success depends only on the amount of hardwork they can put into their work. This set of people in their chosen fields. But it is sad that they don’t get the required result. There is another set of people who believe success is meant only for certain classes of people. This set of people believes they cannot and will never achieve success no matter how hard they try. To them their names have been removed from the success book.

A successful person is somebody who has been able to achieve an aim, fame, wealth or social position. A successful person is somebody who has been able to start a project and see it to the end and should be guided quite a number of people to bring their own project into completion. Success is one of the cheapest commodities you can get to buy in the market only if you have the right negotiating skills. You bargain for whatever kind of success you want. Whether short term or long term because there is a thin line between hope and fear. While the foolish allow fear to weaken them, the wise take advantage of the lesson that is learnt between consequence and circumstance and keep how alive. The difference between a successful person and others is not necessary lack of strength or knowledge but rather a lack of will. 

A successful man always looks for opportunities where others see nothing. They find a lesson while others only see a problem. They are solution focused because they consciously and methodically create their own success, while others hope success will find them. I always know that the successful mind is as fearful like everyone else, but they are not controlled or limited by fear. They ask right questions- the ones which put them in a productive, creative, positive mindset and emotional state. We gain strength, courage and confident by every experience when we stop to look fear in the face. We must do the things which we think we cannot do. Fear cripples more than physical presence of danger. If you want to develop courage dare to do the things you fear and keep on doing them until you have a record of successful experiences behind you. That is a sure way to conquer fear. You can conquer almost any fear if you will make up your mind to do so. Remember, fear does not exist in the mind of the one who fears.

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Let’s look at the reality between hope and fear. I t does not help to keep looking at your fears, focus on your hopes and dreams. Think not about your frustration, concentrate on your potentials, concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is possible for you to do. Be busy, productive and proactive. Lie on your couch, planning, over – thinking, sit on your hands and generally go around in circle and get the job done. For a man to be successful, align yourself with like minded people. Understand the importance of team work and create a win-win relationship. It is better you innovate rather than imitate.

Many failed in life, many would still fail and many are still failing all because they did not have important decisions.  They don’t deal with problems and challenges quickly and effectively, they put their head in the sand. They run away from risk and never improve their selves and at the end of the day, they blame everyone and everything but themselves for their failure. The failed to understand that between hoping times and worrying days there is a yawning gap. True there are times when things happen which will have no control over but those are the times when we stand up and clinch to our hopes. Blaming others however, make us bitter, confused and angry. This weakens us. While many people are pleasure junkies and avoid pain and discomfort at all costs, successful people understand the value and benefits of working through the tough stuff that most would avoid. They have balance. They may be financially successful, they know the terms money and success are not interchangeable. They understand that people who are on a financial level only, are not successful at all. Unfortunately we live in a society which teaches that money equals success. Like many other things, money is a tool. It’s just another resource. Unfortunately, too many people worship it. Understanding the importance of discipline and self control is a key and a way to be travelled by.

The real world is upon us has long as we have breadth in us. We would be in vain to ignore this because pride and precedent cannot over shadow reasoning. There is no easy path to glory. There is no easy road to fame. Life, however we may view it, is no simple parlour game, to enjoy its reward you have to fight, endure and the main generally rugged. I used to think that the best shot at success lay in avoiding challenges and seeing failure as an enemy but I have learnt that when a man continues to hope and fear failure, he would remain obscure.

Many things happen under the sun, but how sad we settle for second best and live lives of mediocrity – all because we refuse to search within us and come up with what is refuse to search within us and come up with what is buried. So, what do we see? People pretend they do not need ‘much’ money when they do; some say that they can manage any job but we crave for better. We become mendicants. What a wasted live!

Where are those with guts to give success, real success, a shot? Guts are combination of confidence, courage, and conviction, strength of character, stick-to-itiveness, aggression and resilience. These are mandatory for anyone who wants to get to and stay at the top. Having an exciting destination is like setting a needle in your compass. From then on, the compass knows only one point – the targeted goal. And it will faithfully guide you there through the darkest fiercest storms. A friend once said to me, ‘I AM TIMELESS”. This can be translated to mean the fact that while the dart times and storms come and go, I remain. Those we celebrate as great became great not because they have two heads but because they faced their fears and overcame their challenges. If it is to be, it is up to you.

Merry Xmas and Happy New Year in Advance...........Whyte Habeeb Ibidapo